Friday, October 3, 2008

Still Preoccupied. In All The Best Ways.

The entire process of getting pregnant has been filled with nothing but questions and anticipation. Why am I not getting pregnant? Will we ever have a baby? Exactly how many people are going to be elbow deep in my vagina? How many embryos took - are we talking Mark and Jen Plus 10?

Will this pregnancy make it to its end in a spectacularly boring and normal way?

As I settle into accepting my new patient status - normal pregnant neurotic narcissist - and leave behind my old patient status - average infertile neurotic narcissist - I am finding an entire new list of questions and preoccupations to distract my thoughts and keep me from being a normal, productive neurotic narcissistic citizen...

Is this baby a boy or a girl?

And isn't that the mother of all questions? One might assume that once I found out, I would be able to focus on normal things and be able to function and concentrate on the trivial things - like, oh, maybe school? Work? Personal hygiene?

(It can't be winter soon enough, so that I may have an excuse for why my legs are covered in what can only be called FUR.)

(Always bringing it with the sexy, I am.)

As an aside, how do I keep meeting people who are against my finding out what I am having? It goes like this: Oh, you're pregnant! Are you finding out what you're having? Really? Why would you want to ruin the surprise?

Bah! Kiss my ass, people. I have other things to be surprised about. Like, the never ending stupidity of the general public.

But we did find out. Today! And now there are a whole new list of questions floating around my mind now that it appears that we are, really honest to goodness having a baby...

Will the baby be laid back like daddy, or a little more aggressive, like mommy?
Will it be a sports fan like daddy, or prefer shopping, like mommy?
Will it leave hysterical voicemails in crazy voices for its friends, like daddy?
Will it's friends, like mommy's friends, have to bring extra underwear for sleepovers just incase they laugh so hard they pee their pants?
Will it have a freakishly long second toe, like daddy?
Will it have freakishly small carnie hands, like mommy?

And how about us - will we be good parents? Patient, appreciative, always seeing the big picture and not going nuts over the little things? Will we be able to carry on adult conversations that revolve around things other than parenting and grocery bills? Or will we interrupt conversations to talk to our kids, then forget what we were saying and just generally make people want to blow their brains out?

I can't help but wonder what sorts of quarks we'll pass on to our daughter.

In about five months, we'll get to start learning what kind of little person she will be.

66 comments:

Anonymous said...

Congratulations!! I certainly hope that your daughter gets your sense of humor. You crack me up.

from a stalking lurker (but not the creepy kind)
Jeanna

Mombi said...

SHE?!?!

Anonymous said...

YAY...DAUGHTER...YAY!

Your blog makes me laugh so hard, in an embarrassing way at work. It breaks up my otherwise neurotic infertile day. It gives me hope. Thank you.

Yay, for finding out the sex! People who don't find out are retarded. Ya, I said it.

Mombi said...

In order:
I don't know
Yes
7
1
YES!
Girl!
Totally...
EH
Fuck it
Please do
You need to get out more.
Yes
Yes
Because you can
Laid back
Shopping
Absolutely
Absolutely
No
Maybe
Absolutely
Usually
Only when cupcake has too much sugar.

seriously? said...

OMG!!! Congratulations! Did you have any particular feeling one way or the other before you found out?

All the best to you, Mark, and little girl cupcake.

Bekah said...

Woot! Congratulations, Jen! And little girl clothes are so freaking cute! It's a good thing you like shopping, because the cuteness of your child's wardrobe will just never end.

Also, my husband didn't want to find out our baby's gender. I overruled him because the kid is in my uterus, not his. And hello! Having a kid is a surprise in itself!

Leah said...

Congrats on your little girl! I have a 4 year old and 19 month old girls. They are so much fun :-) Enjoy every minute of your pregnancy, it goes by so fast.

Kristen said...

I knew it! I'm so freaking excited for you and Mark! You must be on cloud nine! Congrats to you and let the shopping begin!

Anonymous said...

Oh congratulations, a baby girl is fantastic.

Red Headed Mama said...

TEAM PINK!!!

You are sneaky sneaky...and still in trouble...but congrats!

YAY!!!!!!!!!!

Shila said...

OMG!!!! A little princess!!! Congratulations!

mrs_clink said...

Way to drag it out - just for that I only read half this post :)

YAY!!!!!! for daughters!!!!!

Congratulations!!!!

Hannah

alison said...

YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY! Another princess! That's 2 girls and 2 boys in my blog circle in the last week!! We could send them on some double dates... :)

Congrats, I'm so freaking excited for you!!

Jen said...

Yeah! A girl! I love girls! Hooray!

Megan said...

Congratulations! A little girl!!! And I cannot imagine not wanting to know...now you can plan and daydream accordingly. :)

Heather said...

Oooooo! You're having a little girl!!!! When I found out we were having a girl 8 years ago, I was the happiest person on the planet!

And I love all the little quirks we've handed down to our almost 8 year old little girl (her birthday is Monday!). She has a lot of my personality, looks a lot like DH, but has my booty already. She's a long string bean with a bubble butt. I try very hard not to mention it to her. I don't want her to get self-conscious.

nancy said...

Congratulations on your little GIRL!!!!

And seriously, that whole "you are going to ruin the surprise" PISSES me off. It's still a surprise no matter when you find out. You think the birth is going to be any less joyous because you know there won't be a penis? Grrrr.

But again, congrats!

Mrs. Higrens said...

A little girl. Oh wow.

alicia said...

ahhh girl!!!! yay!! that is wonderful! so excited for you :)

Aunt Becky said...

TEAM PINK SCORES ANOTHER MEMBER! HOORAY!

Ashley said...

Hi Jenn!

I picked up your blog from reading Redbook. Congratulaions on your big surprise (it's a surprise at 20 weeks as well!). Little girls are so much FUN!

Mel said...

I freaking knew it!!!! Welcome to team pink!!!!! =)
*hugs*

Sarah said...

Woooooo! I was right! Congratulations on your baby girl!! =)

courtney said...

Hey Congratulations! By the way, you received 21 comments in like an hour. That has got to be some sort of blogesphere record, no?
Yeah for Girl Business!

E_Sharp said...

Congratulations on your little girl!!
I figure there are going to be enough surprises once the baby comes (like how little sleep you actually get)that you don't need the sex-surprise.
I am not waiting to find out the sex of the baby either!

Sully said...

Yay! Congratulations! :)

Meghan said...

Congrats on your little girl!!

And yea, so many people asked why I didn't want to be surprised. Well because first of all it's a surprise either way and second of all, it's none of your damn business!

Tricia said...

yeah a girl!! I knew it!! YIKES. I am so freaking excited for you!!!

Elle Charlie said...

I totally support finding out what you're having - too much to plan for while remaining in the dark, I say.

Rach said...

Congrats on finding out about your mini me. I agree 100% with what you said about finding out the sex. My response so far has been, "Helloooo, it was a surprise that I GOT pregnant. Now I just want to know if we are having daddy's little girl or daddy's playmate." Have fun planning.

Stacy Woodruff said...

Yay! I guessed right! Cool!

shiduri said...

girls are great :)

Veronica said...

Congratulations!

I would tell you how amazing girls are, but that seems to imply that boys aren't. So, babies are awesome and girls clothes are OH so pretty.

Marie said...

Wow that is wonderful news. Congrats!!

The Griffins said...

A Little Girl - Congratulations to you both!

JenM said...

Thank Heavens. . .for little girls! What a great post, and what an adorable way to announce it. I love it. Now, if I have a little girl too, we will totally have to get them together to go shoe shopping and out to coffee.

Yay for team pink!

Shanny said...

OMG what a blessing, a mini you!Yay! And congratulations to you and Mark, this is fantastic news!

Amy said...

Yeah! I am so excited for you! I also love your sense of humor, I am so glad you are having fun!

PJ said...

Oh Jen, that is FANTASTIC! Just... WOW!

Kim said...

how exciting!

Blue said...

Oh yay - congrats, a little cutie-pie girl! I'm with you, ignore all those smugly patient people who tell you to wait, I'm on countdwon to find out the sex of mine! Fab news!

Frustrated said...

I am so happy for you guys! Your little cupcake will be so loved and I am sure she will be beautiful!

kate said...

Yaaaaay girl! :D

mg said...

That's funny that people have given you a hard time for finding out ... I chose not to find out the gender ahead of time with my daughter and everyone I talked to acted like I was a big weirdo! Shows there's no pleasing people, I guess.

I've also followed you from Redbook; I really enjoy your writing. Glad things are going well for you and congratulations on your little girl!

knightlt17 said...

Woot! A girl! Congrats!!!

Dreamer4agift said...

I just left you a msg from my hubby's account (knightlt17)...oops, so sorry!

At any rate, woot, it's a girl! Congratulations!!!

Mama Seoul said...

Congratulations! I find out myself on October 15!

eggorchicken said...

Awww congrats! A gorgeous little girl, that's fabulous news! :D :D

Enjoy the pink shopping!

x
Yvonne

Dana said...

Girls Rule :)
Congratulations!

Lorrie said...

Congrats, Jen! She will be adorable.

Wishing 4 One said...

Yeah!!! As long as she gets your talent in writing, humor and the best sarcasism ever, she's a trooper. Congrats on finding out about your daughter, sooooo happy for u!

www.andreacaroljones.com said...

I enjoyed finding out. We did no reveal the name of any of our three until they were born. I can't stand it when people talk to the baby using their name. Ugh. I also hate seeing peoples reactions to the name. It makes me fighty.

This_Cross_I_Embrace said...

I had a feeling based on the new PINK background of your page... congrats on your baby girl!!

And, 52 comments??? What do you do, send links of your blog out as Spam??

Another Julia said...

A girl! Congratulations!! :)

Chelle said...

yay for girls!! Congrats!!!

sarah23 said...

C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S ! ! !

I'm really excited about having a girl, too.

I still wonder if there is some increased percent of IVF babies that are girls. Supposedly not, but it seems like it to me.

Bean said...

Congrats! I can tell you from experience that girls are awesome. :)

I agree on the finding out. There was no way I was patient enough to wait to find out!

LISA said...

Congrats Jen. Whether a girl or a boy...you are blessed and about to experience something larger than life. I've been having a hard time getting pregnant (already have a 2 year old but wants lots more) and started following your blog right b/f you found out your were preggers. I'm truly happy things are going so well for you and your hubby. I wish you all the best and will hang on to your positive experiences to keep me hopeful it will happen again for us.

Julia said...

Lady business....I was wrong.

Congrats on your little lady!!!

Kristi said...

:::waving HI and officially de-lurking:::

OMG!! Congratulations!!!

Pink-CJ said...

Congrats on your baby girl!

liina said...

Congrats! I wanted a little girl too :(

Jane G said...

Congratulations!

WannabeMommy said...

LOVE your blog... oh, and congratulations! :-)

nico83 said...

Congratulations! (all the way from down under... that'd be Australia :))

Wow... a little girl... that is just wonderful news! I'm all for finding out the sex too... and get really pissed off when people say that you are wrecking the suprise if you find out. I do wonder if people think that you are just giving birth to a penis or a vagina sometimes!!

I'm so excited for you both (we're currently on a first cycle of IVF - so you are my inspiration :P!!!

Thanks for such a great blog,
Nic

drowninginlaundry said...

We found out with both our children, and we had the same reaction from people. "Why ruin the surprise"?

Seriously pregnancy is long enough not to have a little fun thrown at you in the middle. And as far as I am concerned we were still surprised, it just came at 20 weeks not 40 :)

That and I am a control freak who needs to shop.